Resolving to become a better person / less stressed / more patient is a huge ask and not something that can happen overnight. If your expectations are too high, making a big, sweeping change is going to feel like an enormous uphill battle, not to mention completely overwhelming. It’s far easier to forget it and revert back to old behaviours.

Many aspects that we wish to change are actually personality traits or characteristics, and they’re not going to change immediately. You wouldn’t enter a marathon one day and run it the next. You’d chip away at the mileage until the whole distance becomes doable. If you want to make changes, do it in baby steps and make it achievable.

If it involves changing an ingrained habit, then it’s not going to happen straightaway. To change a habit, you have to break a habit and form a new one. You also have to start with a small action – so instead of ‘get fitter’, change it to ‘go for a walk every other day’. It’s a smaller action and easier to stick to. New habits take between three and seven times to be established so it needs to be achievable, otherwise you’ll give up.

 This is one of the reasons I became a life coach! Trying to unravel aspects of your life can seem insurmountable. It might be that you’re not crystal clear why you want to set those particular goals or even know where to begin. You don’t want to be put off before you even start. Why not talk with a life coach?
You can voice your concerns without fear and know you will receive a supportive and objective ear. That objectivity will help you to decide if your goals are the right ones for you. You can also break down the goals into smaller steps that gradually build up. It will allow you to recognise that it’s ok to take it slowly and you may find yourself taking a step backwards before you go forwards – and that’s ok too, as long as you keep going!

Importantly, working with a life coach will give you accountability – it can be easier to give up and not bother with the changes. But if you’re checking in with someone regularly, you’re far more likely to make the effort and achieve results.
If you’re struggling to achieve your goals or are having trouble setting them in the first place, let me know and we can have a chat and see how I can help.