How our lives have changed
You might be finding it hard to relax, or at least carve out some time to relax. After all, if you’re at home at all, surely you should be in a more relaxed state? Perhaps you feel guilty for trying to separate out some defined relaxation time in an otherwise unstructured day. But it’s really important to have some time for you, away from home working, home schooling and home managing. Take a look at what you do to relax and how it’s changed.
- Music: if music is your solace, what music are you listening to now? Has your playlist changed recently? Perhaps it changes depending on how you’re feeling day to day. Find some upbeat music that makes you happy.
- Entertainment: have you found any new activities to keep you occupied? There are dozens of virtual quiz nights, many theatres are streaming pre-recorded plays and there is a ton of boxsets to work your way through. (Remember not to overdo screen time too much though.)
- Exercise: there is more online exercise than ever before. Many local personal trainers and fitness businesses have classes at a low cost. You can get fit and support a local business at the same time. And it’s a great way to try new things!
- Reading: if you’re a reader, what sort of books have you discovered? Lots of people are using this time for self-improvement or learning new hobbies, doing online training courses, reading business books. Or perhaps you are rediscovering old favourites. What has helped you?
Remember these activities should be relaxing. An enforced at home time like this is unlikely to happen again, so some people feel pressure to ‘make the most’ of it and cram lots of new learning in. Just because someone else is learning to play the piano doesn’t mean you have to. Don’t overload yourself because that will lead to overwhelm, which can cause new anxieties. Go with what feels right for you. Take a break if you need to, go back to comfort reads or films that aren’t challenging but you know you enjoy.
Be kind. Don’t worry about what everyone else is doing. This is time for you to look after yourself and your family. Distance yourself from the behaviour of others. Limit your time on social media, especially the critical and negative comments. If you are on social media, share positivity and fun things. Why not take part in a challenge to list the ten albums that have had an impact on you – you don’t have to post them, but spend time thinking about things that make you happy.
Your lock down life will look very different to the next person’s. You need to do what works for you, ignore criticism and negativity. As the saying goes, walk a mile in someone’s shoes before judging them. That applies to you too. No one else knows what’s going on in your life so focus on you and your loved ones. There is always someone to talk to who won’t judge you, but will guide you in these uncertain times and help you find a way through. If you need somebody, I’m here for a chat, or you can send me a message. Keep my details close to hand. And stay safe.