Letting go of worry is key to coping during these times. We can’t forget what’s going on because it’s global and every single person we know is being affected by coronavirus one way or another. Instead, look at what it is you are worrying about and think whether that is something in your control or not. The rising number of deaths is tragic, but you can’t control that. To worry about it is unproductive because you have no solution. Break it down into one element that you can control - you can follow the guidelines, stay at home and keep your immediate family safe. You can control that.

There’s nothing wrong with worrying. It helps us to solve problems. It can become unmanageable though when the focus of your worry is all consuming, you can’t see a way out of it and it’s making you anxious and stressed. That leads to you becoming overwhelmed. Speaking to someone one step removed from your situation about feelings like these can help you gain some perspective by giving you an objective viewpoint and helping you cut through to what really matters to you. [You can read more about worry here.]

Do you feel like you’re coping just fine one day and then down and sad the next? That’s quite normal. Most of us are riding an emotional rollercoaster. Everything that normally anchors you may have been temporarily removed. Add to that the fact we don’t know how long life will be like this and whether it will return to our own normality, it’s no wonder our emotions are yo-yoing. Take each day as it comes and don’t try and make plans too far ahead. It’s lovely to have something to look forward to but putting dates in your diary might lead to disappointment if they have to be moved. Instead, perhaps make a wish list of holidays or family outings you’d all like to do after the lockdown.
Use this as a time to reflect. Look at what you have had to cancel – do you need to reinstate them once lockdown is over? It is incredibly important to keep communication going, so schedule in regular, weekly calls to touch base with family, friends and colleagues and perhaps offer some accountability.

Above all else, be kind. To yourself and to others. Now is not the time to be judgemental. It’s ok to have good days and bad days. Listen to your body. If you feel tired, rest. If you’re bursting with energy, exercise. If you can go outside, try and make time for it, as sunshine and daylight and being out in nature can have an enormously positive impact on your mindset. Try and set a routine and stick to it so you don’t end up still in your PJs, eating cereal in front of the TV, at 4pm. Don’t worry if you have an off day and need a duvet day but do try to get back on track.

Above all else, remember you are not alone. Never be afraid to reach out and ask for help. It can be easier to talk to someone unrelated to your direct situation. I am here to listen and help guide you through these uncertain times. We can work together looking for solutions. Call me on 07808 584732 or send me a message. Keep well and stay safe.